It’s That Time Again

I’ve been gone for a minute

No but really, it’s been a minute.

Even more of a minute than it was the last time I said “it’s been a minute.”

I’ve been wanting to return to the blog for a while, but as time passed by, I couldn’t figure out how I wanted to return. In other words, I couldn’t figure out the next post.

But anyways.

Here it is.

It’s very close to the end of the year. Like literally a few weeks away. Around this time of year the air changes and all of sudden a lot of us turn into the pre-better us. We get a whiff of that new season air and decide that it’s time to plan to be better once the ball drops at 12 AM.

“New year, New me “

“I don’t believe in New Years Resolutions but I’m making some changes this new year.”

Whether you believe in NYRs or not, you have to admit that around this time of year you start thinking about what you might want to do differently to put you closer to whatever end goals you have in life.

4 Steps to Stopping Limited Beliefs Control Your Destiny

Are your thoughts honoring the dreams and goals that you have or are you limiting yourself through your adopted beliefs?

We all know that hard work is a determining factor in making amazing things in our lives, but there’s another factor that we don’t always mention that has a direct effect on whether or not you’ll ever see the greatness that you’re destined to. Limited Beliefs.

So often we wrap our precious dreams and goals with thoughts that don’t cultivate the right energy to make these things happen. We make amazing products but then believe that people are broke, or don’t have money to purchase the things that we believe in the most. We dream to buy beautiful houses but then say things like, “It’s going to take me a long time before I’ll ever see that happen.” It may not seem like much, but believe it or not, this type of mentality closes the window of opportunity for the possibilities that could be afforded to you. Why dream up such a beautiful dream just to stunt it’s growth before it ever reaches the external world. There are enough struggles and setbacks that will come your way once you set your mind to accomplishing something. The last thing you need is to allow your mind to negatively dictate the circumstances of how you can accomplish it.

The next time you have a limited thought, take a minute to do these 4 things:

Examine where the limited belief is derived

Many of our fundamental beliefs come from our immediate family and consist of things such as religion, how to properly tie your shoe, or how to speak to people. While there are great beliefs that stick with us throughout our adulthood, sometimes other beliefs aren’t so helpful. Many people grow up with crippling beliefs that they’ve gotten from their environment about themselves or the way of the world and it doesn’t really serve you when it comes to dream building. Beliefs such as “I’m average,” or “I’m too short to do this or that,” or “people don’t really care about what it is that I care about.” When you experience your limited belief coming into thought, take a moment to analyze where it may have come from, whether past experiences, from hear say, or learned behavior.

STARTING OVER

Rome wasn’t built in a day. Which gives you and I permission to work as long as we need in order to see our potential manifest into something special. When you’ve got a dream you’re actively working towards, it will take some time to perfect the vision into something substantial and long standing. Sometimes your first idea isn’t as much of a hit as you thought it would be, which consequently gives you the challenge of coming up with a new idea or starting over again. Having to start over can sound so defeating when you’ve already invested so much of yourself. Whether it’s a relationship, a dream, or a project, starting over is never something that you want to think about happening in the event that you’re plans don’t turn out the way you expect.

Motivational Monday: If We Just Tried

I have never been a runner. I remember walking for every single mile run test I had to take in grade school and being excused for it because I would complain about the cramps in my ribs. I really did have abnormal ribs, but it never stopped me from doing other cardio work such as marching and dancing in a marching band or playing roughly with my cousins or friends. The truth is I was never fast, and so, I never liked running.

As I’ve been focusing more on my health and fitness, a strong part of me wants to run because of all of the benefits. But I’ve already deemed “running isn’t my thing.” And I can be honest and say running isn’t my thing because, well, I just don’t feel like I’m good at it.

How many activities or challenges have we decided not to take up because of predetermined conclusions about how well we’ll do in it. Whether it’s running, or exercising in general, writing a book, or taking pictures, or speaking in front of other people – we all have a way of discouraging ourselves from something.

Motivational Monday: We Are All The Same

“We all live with the objective of being happy; Our lives are all different and yet the same” -Anne Frank

This past weekend was my sister’s 25th birthday celebration and we spent 2 whole days at 2 different festivals surrounded by hundreds of jolly, drinking people.

After seeing so many different faces, so many colors, so many styles, and so many unique features, I was reminded of our likeness… while we’re all different, we are all yet still the same.

Motivational Monday

Sophia Amoruso brought a vintage piece of clothing from a thrift store and decided to auction it off on Ebay with bets starting at $9.99. The item was sold for $1,500. Less than a decade later, Sophia became a CEO at her own company called, Nasty Gal, which sells clothing online to young women. Before Nasty Gal, Sophia barely finished high school, didn’t finish college, and got fired from a lot of jobs.

Happy Weekend!!

When you hear the word “Weekend”, many of you (without small children that will wake you up at 6 am) may automatically think “ahhh, rest.” And while the sight of the back of your eyelids, the warm feeling from under your comforters, not to mention not having to set your alarm clocks probably sounds like the best weekend ever, chances are it could be a lot better.

“Patience is a Virtue, Being Anxious Just Might Hurt You”

Be Patient! A lot of people have been praying for a lot longer than you have and will be answered a lot later than you will. – Dylesia Hampton, LMSW

There are a lot of things I’m thankful for. One of my many blessings is having positive, inspiring friends that challenge, reassure, and push me to become the best version of me possible. A week ago I got this “random” text from a dear friend of mine, reminding me to be patient.

And boy was that reminder needed.

HELP! (Everybody Needs Somebody)

I read this story once before about a man with deep faith. He believed undoubtedly that God would always take care of him and had no problem expressing this to everyone he knew. One day a huge storm came and caused flooding in his town. People hurried to evacuate but this man of deep faith stayed, assured in the fact that God would always take care of him. The water started seeping through his door and windows. A fire truck arrived with rescue workers who urged the man to come with them because it wasn’t safe for him to stay. The man with the deep faith replied, “No! God will take care of me!”

A Little Pep Talk- “Programming Your Mind For Success”

I know that I post a lot about staying positive and motivated… and really, most of the time it isn’t for the readers, but it’s more so to keep my own spirits up. Throughout my life I’ve learned that a positive outlook will maintain you longer than a negative one, no matter what life is handing you at the moment. And for that reason, I try to find as much inspiration to feed my mind to keep me from developing those self-damaging thoughts that come out of no where.